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[identity profile] cartesiandaemon.livejournal.com 2013-01-28 04:37 pm (UTC)(link)
I find it so easy to do the "silence" one, or something similar. I'll assume I'm always the outsider in any group, and that by doing anything other than staying silent I'm being pushy -- and forget that I prefer other people to make a cheery greeting whoeever they are...

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[identity profile] cartesiandaemon.livejournal.com 2013-01-28 04:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah. I've done the same thing in relationships with people too. Several people have commented that when they first got to know me I was very quiet. From my point of view, the conversation was fine, all I was doing was not interrupting them in order to talk about what I wanted to talk about. But from their point of view, I wasn't really contributing much. All because my threshold for "how much silence before it's normal to introduce a radically new topic of conversation" was 2s, and theirs was 0.2s.